Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that there’s got to be a way through it.
~ Michael J. Fox
Grannymar
Life is a story, and I am a little part of it.
Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that there’s got to be a way through it.
~ Michael J. Fox
And the way is usually just grin and bear it or to be politically more correct be paitent.
Ramana, I am trying to be a patient patient! 😉
I’m still looking for the way through it…….
I empathise with you Gerlinde, I lost my mother when I was 49 and looking after a terminally ill husband. Six weeks later Elly left home to attend University in Scotland, and really only returned to the nest for short visits. Fourteen months after my mother’s death, my husband died. This post (took ten years to commit to print) might help you.
Accepting a painful situation whose bad outcome can not be changed is very difficult. From personal experience, I have found that accepting something rather than fighting it helps. Gerlinde, I hope you find the strength to deal with whatever you are going through.
I agree with you, Zambian Lady, that ‘Accepting a painful situation whose bad outcome can not be changed is very difficult’. In accepting, it sometimes allows us to change focus and see a way forward.
Sometimes the what is, is . . . and no amount of shaking our fists at the sky can change it. How we relate to the issue is the issue.
With acceptance comes peace.
Sometimes the shaking of fists at the sky, wastes the energy needed to find the road forward, allowing us to move on with acceptance.
Unfortunately the way through has to be selected carefully – a preferred route of bashing those causing annoyance on the snoot is not always the best way to go.
True, Col, anger helps nobody, least of all ourselves!
As with everything, there are exceptions. I did find a spot of losing my cool to have been rather effective when dealing with a trio of muggers!
That I can understand, and might be tempted to swing my handbag in just such an occasion!
My sweet old mother kept a hatpin handy for such contingencies!
MJF is an inspiration. Yes death is difficult to deal with and some illnesses or injuries are worse than death.
Yes, Dianne, some illnesses are a slow living death.
I agree with him. Acceptance doesn’t mean fatalism or blind obedience either. Acceptance means recognising the reality and coming to terms with it. Which may mean taking a stand if that’s what’s required.
Coming to terms with ‘what is’, that is it precisely, Nick.